Love and Marriage - Part 8: The Art of Resolving Conflict
Topic: Love Scripture: Song of Solomon 6:1–6:13
God never gives up on us. Despite our sins and inconsistencies, he will always love us. Everyone experiences conflict. While we all respond differently in conflict, there are several ways we can resolve the conflict and restore the relationship.
First, we need to attack the problem and not the person. We should not respond with evil but, if possible, desire to live in peace Romans 12:17-18. Seeking wise counsel and advise will help us to slow down and understand the issue. Godly counsel can help lead us to resolution. We may need to withdraw and take time to think and process the issues. Solomon went to his garden. For him is was a place of refreshment and renewal. It was a place of peace. In times like this we can get control of our emotions and consider an appropriate way to respond. Solomon’s wife comes to him in the garden and they talk. There is no finger pointing or blaming. He tells her she is beautiful. He creates peace between them and he forgives her.
Reconciliation comes when there is an acknowledgement of wrongdoing and an offer of forgiveness. Saying “I’m sorry” or “will you forgive me” is essential in reconciliation. We need to reinforce our commitment to each other in every conflict by saying “I love you and I will stand by you forever.” “We will get through this,” brings hope. The process of conflict resolution helps us grow. The better we understand each other the more we become one with each other.
Finally, we need to rekindle the romance. I Corinthians 13 talks about love and the qualities that exemplify love. 4 Love is patient and kind; love does not envy or boast; it is not arrogant 5 or rude. It does not insist on its own way; it is not irritable or resentful;[ 6 it does not rejoice at wrongdoing, but rejoices with the truth. 7 Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things. These qualities strengthen communication and deepen our commitment to each other.
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