Love and Marriage - Part 6: The Art of Love
Topic: Love Scripture: Song of Solomon 4:9–4:16
In this passage, Solomon romances his bride. He speaks to her intimately about his physical attraction to her. The heart is the center of our emotions. It is the core of how we express ourselves. If we want to give ourselves to each other wholeheartedly we need to first give our hearts to Christ. A Christ centered relationship is an essential foundation for our capacity to love well. When we give our love to our spouse it is an all or nothing relationship.
Our senses become engaged when we are intimate. We notice things like how he or she looks, or smells. These things all factor into our attraction. Our bodies are a temple created by God. We need to take care of it we will decay emotionally, spiritually and physically. To treat our bodies well they need to nourished and cared for. The wedding isn’t the end of the journey. It is the beginning and we need to make sure we are able to see it through. We cannot get lazy.
In verse 11, Solomon describes how much he enjoys kissing his bride. It is pleasurable and strengthens relationships though a physical expression of desire. It is also physically beneficial. It can lower stress and increase serotonin levels, endorphins and immunity.
Don’t rush intimacy. Solomon delights that his bride is a virgin. Love takes time and sex is one of the greatest gifts you can give one another. Even though many people do not wait for marriage to have sex, the grace of God and redeem us and make us new.
Romance and intimacy awaken our senses. We remember a meal shared, the smell of perfume, music in the background the feel of a caress. The bride takes initiative by telling Solomon what she desires. If a woman does not feel desires she feels unattractive and unloved. Men want to feel strong (without dominating). Past pain in our lives can inhibit intimacy and need to dealt with so they don’t interfere in the relationship. No matter what we have done in the past God offers forgiveness.
Likewise, the church needs men and women who are fully alive. We may need emotional or spiritual help or forgiveness to move beyond the past and become fully alive in Christ.
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