Gospel Centered Marriages: Loving Husbands

February 3, 2013 Pastor: Ryan Rice Series: Gospel Centered Marriages

Topic: Gospel Centered Marriages Scripture: Ephesians 5:25–5:33

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,”

I. THE HUSBAND'S PROBLEM
3 Common Problems:
• Mission Fatigue
• Clouded Vision
• Design Disconnect

For as by the one man's disobedience the many were made sinners, so by the one
man's obedience the many will be made righteous. (Romans 5:19 ESV)

2 Central Points:
• The problem is always sin
• The solution is the gospel

II. THE HUSBANDS PARADIGM
Jesus loved his bride (church)

#1 Sacrificial love (25)
Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,
Jesus “gave himself for our sins” (Galatians 1:4-5)

#2 Sanctifying love (26)
that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word,
Sanctify them in the truth; your word is truth. (John 17:17)

#3 Splendorous love (27)
so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or
any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. (Ephesians 5:27)

• The husbands paradigm to love is rooted in the gospel:
Gospel-Centered Marriages
Loving Husbands Ephesians 5: 25-33

III. THE HUSBAND’S PLAN
Husbands love your bride

#1 Provide love (28-30)

In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves
his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes
it, just as Christ does the church, because we are members of his body.
But if anyone does not provide for his relatives, and especially for members of his
household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.(1 Timothy 5:8)
The LORD God took the man and put him in the garden of Eden to work (Genesis 2:15)

Action Steps:
• Meet as a couple to talk about money, time and family relationships
• Establish date night: cultivate openness and closeness

#2 Protect love (31)
“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the
two shall become one flesh.”
So they are no longer two but one flesh. What therefore God has joined together, let
not man separate.” (Matthew 19:6)
I give them eternal life, and they will never perish, and no one will snatch them out of my
hand. (John 10:28)

Action Steps:
• Communicate and demonstrate loyalty
• Ensure security and safety

#3 Priestly love (32-33)
This mystery is profound, and I am saying that it refers to Christ and the church.
However, let each one of you love his wife as himself...
...We have a great high priest who has passed through the heavens, Jesus, the Son of
God.... (Hebrews 4:14)

Action Steps:
• Sacrifice one thing to serve her (Matthew 10:28)
• Study to understand her design (I Peter 3:7, Psalms 139:14)
Gospel-Centered Marriages
Loving Husbands Ephesians 5: 25-33

SPECIAL GUEST TO HELP
Bill Wellons is a church planter and consultant with Fellowship Associates. In 1977 Bill
and his wife Carolyn help found Fellowship Bible Church in Little Rock, AR, where he
served as a Teaching Pastor and Chairman of the Elder Board for 32 years.
Bill Transitioned to Fellowship Associates in 2005 to oversee a Leadership Residency
for church planters, to consult with church leaders and to partner with Leadership
Network's Halftime Ministry to churches.
He has served as a Gallup Fellow and on the National Speaker Team for the Family Life
Marriage Conferences. Bill and Carolyn are authors of Getting away To get together
published by Family Life. Joining Dr. Robert Lewis he developed The Great Adventure,
DVD series for Men's Fraternity and Bill is a co-auhtor of Unlimited Partnership with
Lloyd Reeb, a Broadman & Holman Publication.
Married in 1970, Bill and Carolyn have raised three children, all of whom have their own
families of their own. The Wellons currently have eight (8) grandchildren.

IV. THE COUPLES PROJECT:
1. Get Away to____________________________________________________
2. Get Together by_________________________________________________
Gospel-Centered Marriages
Loving Husbands Ephesians 5: 25-33

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